Have You Changed Over The Years? For Better or Worse?

When I was younger I used to think that I stayed the same. Year after year my circumstances would change, I would have different things in my life, but I would always stay the same.

No matter what happened I was always the same person. Other people might change but not me, I would stay the same.

Then I slowly began to realise something that made me feel quite uncomfortable and uncertain…

I am ALWAYS changing. You are ALWAYS changing.

This is quite scary to many people because they don’t like to think that they’re changing. They like to think that they’re the same Sarah or David that they’ve always been.

It used to be scary for me because I hated change. So I limited trying new things or taking on opportunities because they were different than what I was used to. This held me back for many years.

Two things are certain though. We are always getting older and we are always changing. We can change for the better or for the worse and it’s your choice which way you go.

When I realised that it was me who had full control over my life and how things changed, I decided to develop myself as much as I could…

And while it’s not always been plain sailing, the trend over the years has been upwards. My physical and mental health has significantly improved and because of this I feel much better about life.

But I’ve also looked at other people to see how they have changed.

I’ve seen people that I know get bigger and bigger. I’ve known people who have taken slimming pills or yo-yo dieted and now struggle with poor health due to the damage they’ve done to their body.

Many of these people also lack of self esteem and have developed mental health problems such as depression. This is not surprising really because their health, fitness, and body are going backwards. Yes they are changing, but they are changing for the worse.

What I tend to think when I see these people is WHY?

Why have you allowed your health, fitness, and body to deteriorate, especially when you have complete control to do the exact opposite? Why are you accepting a lower quality of life?

I find this frustrating because I know that most people are capable of so much more when they take control of their life and keep trying to change in the right direction, rather than drifting along in the wrong direction.

Take a look around you at how other people have changed.

Think about people that you’ve known for a long time, or people that you used to know and then saw again years later.

What do you think when you see them?

They have all changed but…

How have they changed? Have they changed for the better or for the worse?

Do you think “They look great, they look really fit and healthy and much younger than what they are?”

Or do you think “What the heck happened to them, they’ve put some weight on and look 10 years older than what they are?”

Everybody gets older all the time, everybody changes all the time…

But you’re either moving forwards or backwards with all the different aspects of your life.

You may be doing well in certain areas of your life while neglecting others. Many people put their health behind everything else, even though your physical and mental health have the biggest impact on your quality of life.

For example, there are plenty of business people who make lots of money and could say they are successful. There are plenty of people who do well bringing up their children.

However, while they’ve been focussed on their work or family, their health has deteriorated and they may have knocked 15 years off their life.

The key here is to embrace change in all the important areas of your life.

If you try to stay the same or resist making the necessary changes to improve and develop your life then you’re holding your life back.

No matter how much weight you want to lose or your current state of health, you are in control of what happens and can keep striving to change for the better.

You can have much, or all, of the health, fitness, and body you want. It’s all ready and waiting for you!

So the real question is this…

How will you change over the next month, the next year, the next 5 years?

What you do NOW to change and improve your life decides what future you have.

Don’t look back in 5 years time thinking why didn’t I do this? Why didn’t I do that? It’s too late then because you’ve just lost all that time when you could have been making great progress.

Are you going to lose your weight with running and get the health, fitness, and body you want?

Or are you going to drift backwards and accept a lower quality life.

Whatever you do you will be changing all the time, and one day you’ll look back to NOW and either feel happy or sad with what happened in between.

So make the changes NOW. Change for the better over the coming years rather than changing for the worse.


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7 Responses to Have You Changed Over The Years? For Better or Worse?

  1. clifford says:

    when I had a stroke in 2002 people around me thought, he’s going to join the rest of us unhealthy overeating and overdrinking life-wasters. It was frustrating for me not to run for years, but my mind was focused on what I’d done in my running past, I did put one and a half stones on, but that was inevitable, it dosen’t sound much but I’m only five foot and one lonely inch. I’m back running now and you should see the looks I get from people who wrote me off! And it’s people like James who keep me going, cheers mate!

    • James says:

      No problem at all Clifford. You’ve done great to get back from a stroke and get back running again!

      It would have been so easy to go the other direction and settle for a lower quality life. That’s what many people would have done.

      The people who wrote you off are no doubt envious of what you’re doing now and probably wonder why they aren’t doing the same.

  2. Tracey Heayns says:

    This year I am determined to do something about my health and fitness off the very same reasons you discuss James. I do not want to look back in 5 years time and think, ‘ why didn’t I do this earlier?’ or not be able to enjoy life because of being overweight and very unhealthy! Keep up the fantastic work James, you are making a difference.

  3. dana hansen says:

    Yes, James, you are making a difference!
    I think I said it to you before, NOTHING and NO ONE motivates me better than you!
    I am trying to get my fitness back too, after some long weeks, and I think every little bit helps.
    Tell yourself “I’ve done it before” one of the best tricks to keep going.
    James told me that!

    • James says:

      Thank you Tracey and Dana, I’m really glad that you find my help useful.

      Also keep up the good running and keep changing for the better. You’ll be rewarded for it for many years to come.

  4. Cathy Henderson says:

    James as I have told you before buying your book was one of the best decisions of my life when I started running a lot of younger people thought it was a joke, why would a 54 year old grandmother start running her life was over, but with your help I am now can run six miles last mile a wee bit of a struggle but I am getting there. I am now 56 fell more like 36 and 2 stone lighter once again James thank you I could not have done it without your help

    • James says:

      You’re very welcome Cathy. You’ve done really well with both your running and weight loss and deserve everything you’ve achieved.

      You say that you feel more like 36 than 56, but really you’re fitter now than most people are at any time in their life. You’re fitter and healthier than people who are meant to be at their peak in the 20’s which is great.

      Keep up the good running!