Are You a Passenger Or a Driver?

Did you know that you have the choice to be a passenger or a driver in your life, yet most people choose to be a passenger by default?

They don’t even realise they have this choice and just accept whatever life throws at them, without any question, in the vague hope that everything will somehow turn out alright.

That’s why so many people become overweight and unfit. They remain a passenger until one day they reach the destination and realise that it’s not the place they want to be.

Well here’s what you need to know…

If you want to get to where you want to go then you have to be a driver.

Being a passenger means that you’re depending on pure luck with the chances of reaching the weight, health, fitness, and body you want being virtually zero.

So what the difference between a passenger and driver?


A passenger lets things in life happen to them. They have no control over where they are going.

They have quite a simple life because they can just sit back and let their life move in any direction. They don’t need to take control or responsibility because their life depends on the driver which in this case is "luck".

While this is the easiest thing to do they always end up frustrated and dissatisfied because they never get to where they want to go.

They NEVER get the health, fitness, and body they want because they don’t take control over where they life is going. Instead they accept whatever life hands to them. 


A driver is someone who controls their own destiny. They are in charge of their life and decide where they are going and how they are going to get there.

They have much more responsibility than a passenger because they have to make decisions about where they are going, make plans about how they’re going to get there, and then drive to the destination.

Whereas the passenger can sit back and relax, the driver is always active, making sure they are on the right track, and moving towards their desired destination.

While the driver has to put in much more time and effort they are well rewarded…

Yes they may take a wrong turn or get a flat tyre, but if they keep going then eventually they get to where they want to go. They get the health, fitness, and body they want.

They also experience a much more rewarding journey because they’ve taken control of their life and actually achieved what they wanted, rather than settling for what got handed to them.

Switching roles from a passenger to driver is not always easy. You have to accept full responsibility for the journey. You have to look after the vehicle, you have to plan the route, and you have to drive safely to get there.

There are no room for excuses because YOU are in charge. You either keep going and reach your destination or you stop short and accept that you’re stuck at a place where you don’t really want to be.

What type of driver do you want to be?

If you choose to accept the challenge of being a driver so that you can experience all the rewards that a driver gets, then you also have to make a decision about what type of driver you’re going to be.

Will you be the type of driver that speeds down the road recklessly?

You risk ending your journey at any second because you’re not in full control of the vehicle. You’re not in full control of yourself.

Will you be a driver that tries to take shortcuts, or one that sets off for a journey without a map or properly planned directions?

You think you can get there quicker, even quicker than anybody else has done before, but you end up getting lost and taking much longer to reach your destination. You feel frustrated with yourself knowing that you’ve just wasted lots of time and effort while not really getting anywhere.

Or maybe you’ll be a driver that plans the route, travels at a safe speed, and simply follows the directions?

While this can seem the least exciting and even the slowest way to get to where you want to go, you actually reach your destination in the shortest time with the least amount of effort and stress.

Are You a Passenger Or a Driver?

It’s up to you to make the decision about whether you’re going to be a passenger or a driver.

You can take the easy and simple option by being a passenger but you’ll NEVER reach the weight, health, fitness, and body that you want.

Or you can take full control and responsibility and become a driver. This takes more time and effort but you get well rewarded by reaching your destination and getting the weight, health, fitness, and body you want.

If you’re going to be a driver then you also need to decide how you’re going to get there.

You can drive recklessly or try to save time by taking shortcuts and not developing a sound plan. Or you can plan the route and follow the directions knowing that it’s the fastest and easiest way to reach your destination.

What about you?

Are you a passenger or a driver, and if you’re a driver what type of driver are you?

Have you switched roles to become a driver because you got fed up of being a passenger and letting life happen to you?

Feel free to share any comments or experiences that you’ve had as I’m sure that other people will find them useful and motivating.


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6 Responses to Are You a Passenger Or a Driver?

  1. Cathy Henderson says:

    Hi James,

    I would say I am a driver it has taken a lot of hard work and I have had a few set backs but I am begining to see great results. I started running at 54 I have lost over 2 stone every one say’s I look great and my skin looks great as well. You are never too old to start. I will let you know how I get on I am running the Glasgow womens 10k on May 8th


    • James says:

      You’ve done really well Cathy. You took control, put in the time and effort, and now you’re getting all the rewards. Keep it up!

      I hope you enjoy your 10k and I look forward to hearing how you get on.

  2. Gabi says:

    Well done to you Cathy. I am trying to start running myself. I would say that I am in the transition of becoming driver after being a passenger all of my life. Yes, lots of bumps on the journey but should be worth it in the end.

    • Cathy Henderson says:

      Thanks Gabi I never thought I would be a driver but here I am one and a half years later running my 1st 10k, when times get hard keep going and if you can join you’re local running club I did last October and they have been great pushing me to run further than I ever thought I could

  3. Cathy Henderson says:

    Hi James,

    I ran the women’s 10k in Glasgow yesterday my time was 1 hour 10 minutes, 13 minutes faster than last year, delighted that I managed to run faster than last year

    • James says:

      That’s great Cathy, you’ve done very well and made a big improvement with your 10k.

      It’s a great feeling knowing that although you’re one year older you are fitter, healthier, and a better runner than last year.