Is it Your Fault You Are Overweight?

Although this blog post might be a bit controversial, I would like to see what you think and also get you thinking more about how much you are in control of your weight.

Now generally I don’t like to dwell on things from the past and don’t like to place any blame. I find it’s better to concentrate on the future and aim to improve things that you can control.

However today I want to ask you this question…

Is it your fault that you are overweight?

Let’s look at both sides of the story…

Why it’s not your fault

When most people see someone that’s overweight they immediately judge that person and assume that they’ve caused all the problems for themselves.

However, in a way it’s not your fault and here’s why…

There’s so much information out there that it’s hard to know what to do with your diet, your exercise, and also with your weight loss.

Plus there’s a lot of inaccurate and conflicting information, so it’s easy to get confused or end up doing things that result in you putting on more weight and then struggling to get the weight back off.

For example, lots of food manufacturers use gimmicks and tricks to advertise their food and then pretend that they’re offering a healthy option.

People buy the food believing they’re being healthy, but they end up struggling with their weight. The food manufacturer gets to make more money, while you get to put on more weight.

Let’s also think about what people trying to lose weight do when they have all this weight loss information available to them…

Well they look for the option that sounds like the easiest and quickest way to lose weight. After all that’s the sensible thing to do. Why make losing weight harder than it needs to be?

The problem though is this…

All the big weight loss businesses know that most people want the easy and quick option which means that many use it to their advantage by promoting things like magic pills and supplements. They tell you how it’s so easy and quick to lose weight, all you have to do is take this pill.

Because people are so desperate to lose weight and they want the easiest and quickest option they try these things.

However, you need to realise that a lot of weight loss businesses are not really interested in helping you lose weight. Their aim is to make as much money as possible and to do this they are willing to misguide and mislead you.

So one of the reasons people become overweight in the first place is because of misleading advertising of foods that make you believe you’re eating healthier than you actually are.

Then a big reason why people remain overweight is because they are confused with all the information around, plus they are being misled by businesses promising the easiest and fastest way to lose weight.

Why it is your fault

Most people that put on weight don’t think about what they are doing to themselves and don’t realise the massive difference that a healthy body and mind makes to their life.

They slowly put on weight without any real resistance until one day they realise that they’re unhappy with their weight and want to do something about it.

They had been willing to accept an average or poor diet, and not willing to do any worthwhile exercise. So they became overweight because of NEGLECT.

Then most people remain overweight because they don’t do enough about it or they make excuses and keep slacking off…

Or they chase the easy and quick options that I talked about earlier which don’t get any long term results and only end up with much frustration and wasted time.

The problem here is that these people have either failed to make decisions or they’ve made the wrong ones.

Did you know that everything you have in your life and where you are now comes down to all those decisions you’ve made in the past?

You decide what you eat and drink and how much…

You decide whether you exercise and how much…

You decide whether you find the right information to help you live at a healthy weight and whether to put this information into practice.

Now a lot of people say things like "Why has this happened to me, why am I overweight?"

They feel unlucky or cheated with life when really everything that they dislike in their life are things they’ve created for themselves.

Other things like food manufacturers and weight loss businesses can influence you and affect your decisions but ultimately it’s you that makes the decisions…

And it’s these decisions that will get you to your desired weight, or keep you at a weight that you’re not happy with.

What do you think?

I’ve shown you both sides to the story here…

It’s my belief that you are in control of your weight and what happens to you. Therefore whether you reach your desired weight or remain dissatisfied with your weight is something that you control.

However, I also understand that people are influenced and misled by business that just want to make money and are not really interested in helping them. This makes it more likely that they’ll put on weight as well as making it harder to get the weight back off.

What are your thoughts on this?

Is it your fault you are overweight and why?

If it’s not your fault, then who’s to blame? Why are you overweight?


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7 Responses to Is it Your Fault You Are Overweight?

  1. Cesar says:

    Yes and no!

    A lot of obese people have hormone problems and increase the weight very very fast unintentionally. Whereas, Yes its fault because if you are healthy, I mean, dont have hormone problems, or other diseases that can affect your weight, then it is your responsability to exercise and eat healthy with the correct portion sizes.

    As you said in the article, a lot of people only complain about their weight but dont do a thing about it,and in fact eat even more because of depression!! I dont understand how people can hate exercise, if exercise its the only way, in my opinion, to feel that you are truly alive!

    • James says:

      You made some good points there Cesar.

      You’re right that there are plenty of people with hormone or medical problems that cause them to gain weight. However, for the majority of people it’s more down to lack of exercise and a bad diet.

      Like you said there are also people who don’t like exercise. A lot of these people haven’t given exercise a good go and just feel the difficulty from trying to make a start which puts them off. So they never experience the alive feeling that we know about, or any of the other physical and mental health benefits.

  2. Tracey says:

    I do agree with James, we are in control of our minds and bodies. I am overweight now and thankfully losing it but I take full responsibility that I am overweight because of the food and lack of exercise choices, that I have made in the past! There is no easy option eat healthily and exercise more!

  3. Fiona says:

    Hi James

    loving your emails and tips.

    For the past eight years I have been on a medication that basically caused me to gain about forty kilos over time. Before I had always been able to work it off but since being on this med I found nothing seems to work. It slowed down my metabolism and also caused unreasonable food cravings, which made me feel weak and guilty. I have been off it for a week now and am amazed how food is just no longer the priority it was. I also have thyroid problems.

    So I would say that you cannot judge a book by its cover, though I notice that it is increasingly common to make fun of fat people and call them for being lazy and weak.

    I have built up my running to about forty k a week now, and I am hoping to see results now that the food urges have gone down.

    Thanks a lot

    • James says:

      I’m glad that you’re enjoying my information and tips Fiona. I’m also pleased for you that you’re off the medication which will help you lose weight.

      You’re right that you cannot judge a book by its cover. People that are overweight are often seen as lazy and weak like you say, but it doesn’t mean that they are.

      Some people work 80 hours per week and are extremely motivated and driven but they struggle with their weight. The problem they have is setting priorities but that’s another story.

  4. Nicoleta says:

    The second I saw the title I automatically assumed I am alone to balme for my weight…. however, you made some valid points on being manipulated by false information. My mind reminesced on all the poor choices on how I used to diet (starving myself for days and days, then overeat, drinking soda because it is “diet”, or eating stuff that is “low fat”, etc).
    Now I have the correct information, so, if I am overweight now, I surely am the only one to blame.